Moan & Groan

Because, according to research, moaning and groaning while making love stimulates changes in your brain that help focus on pure pleasure by blocking out distractions. It works like this. Sighing, groaning or breathing rapidly includes mild hyperventilation, which reduces oxygen to the brain and creates a slightly dizzy feeling. This helps you let go and focus on pleasurable sensations.

Tip: Tranform the simple act of undressing into sizzling and sensuous forplay by doing the act without using your hands. It heats things up by slowing everything down, insist the experts.

Survivor Guilt

Otherness does make things a little awkward, but there is an additional mechanism called 'survivor guilt' that makes things more uncomfortable. When one survives an accident that has claimed other fatalities, there is intense guilt. When one meets a person who is deformed, we think, "that could have been me" or "thank God it didn't happen to me". Both thoughts lead to feelings of guilt and shame.

The more disfiguring the deformity, the more intense the reaction. One needs to remember that it is perfectly normal to feel this way. Although there is no actual statistical evidence or medical study to support this, it is perhaps the hardest and most frequently felt 'forbidden' thought that repeatedly crosses our mind and can be applied to a range of dichotomies - rich vs poor, able vs differently abled, young vs old, addict vs non-addict.

Nursing Prejudices

It is politically incorrect to admit to nursing prejudices against the disabled, and people would not come out to say it; yet they do confess to a feeling of unease in the presence of people who have a deformity. Even when it comes to dealing with the elderly, there is an anxious awkwardness, with plenty of forbidden feelings bobbing about the surface. It is not uncommon to feel "I wish there were dead".

But almost immediately, the superego kicks in and silently admonishes the person for thinking such thoughts. The 'otherness' of being different of being different makes both anxious and reticent but at the same time, they don't want to look socially contemptible for even acknowledging this type of emotion.

There is a clear conflict between social psychology and evolutionary psychology. The former says: we must be charitable to the underprivileged for that is the right thing to do. The latter says: the underprivileged are a drain on limited resources and don't really belong in my world. It is precisely this conflict that disturbs people with disability for they see themselves as perfectly 'useful' to the world despite their handicap and do not want to be viewed through charitable eyes.

Prohibited truths (part II)

Today it is becoming next to impossible to violently impress upon any generation that boundaries of sexual limits are being crossed when, in fact, these boundaries themselves are being re-drawn everyday. Brazilian waxes, anal bleaching and cross massages are in great vogue. They don't even evoke a gasp or giggle any more when discussed with the girl gang. But when it comes to that personal fitness trainer you want to have sex with, there is still a hush.

Does a fleeting thought of being in bed with someone other than your spouse or boyfriends intrude on your sex life? Experts on relationship behaviour believe that it is normal to be attracted to other people. Dealing with it is what matters, for there's a chasm between thought and deed.

Prohibited truths (part I)

Sigmund Freud, the great guru of the subconscious, claimed that there were many similarities between taboo-holders and obsessive neurotics. Taboos, we must suppose, are prohibitions of primeval antiquity, which were, at some time, externally imposed upon a generation of primitive men; they must no doubt have been impressed on them violently by the previous generations.

These prohibitions must have concerned activities towards which there was strong inclination. They must then have persisted from generation to generation, perhaps merely as a result of tradition transmitted through parental and social authority. And so anyone who has violated a taboo becomes taboo himself because he possesses the dangerous quality of tempting others to follow his example.

The "Block"

Do you put up with a lot? Do other people or things bug you? Or better yet, do YOUR bad habits bug you? If your answer is 'yes' to any of these questions, then it is time to start clearing the "block".

The things you put up with, the things that bug you, and the things you've neglected are the things that 'block' your path towards success. These may look like little things, but in fact they are huge. They are like the dirty dishes piling up in your sink. It could be anything in your life: a micro-managing boss, sour relationship, over-flowing in-box, a job you dislike, etc. These are the physical, mental and emotional clutter in your life. They hold you back and are a huge drain on your energy level.

Did you know that the average person tolerates up to 100 things at a time? Imagine that each one weighs 20 pounds, and that you're carrying them on your back in the backpack of your life. That is 2000 pounds you are carrying around everyday!

Therefore it is no wonder then that your energy is drained and that you are sometimes irritable and that you are dissatisfied with some area of your personal or work life. You can not figure out what you want and why you may not be achieving what you want to achieve. You simply do not have the space or the capacity to bring new things into your mental, emotional and physical environment - all because your life is packed full of clutter.

Basement of your house – could be effectively used in case of short space

Previously, there were several houses which were built along with the unfinished basements and owner of the house utilized those bare, dark, normally damp spaces for storing, bust bunnies, spider webs or laundry. You might have purchased a similar kind for yourself and currently as the cost of property has gone up and the economy has gone down, therefore you might be opting for the option of expanding your already existing house so that it is able to fulfill the needs and requirements of you and your family members. At this point of time, what could be better other than making use of the large area of basement? For making it worth living, you have to first remove all the junk which it is filled with and then go ahead with some carpeting work and getting furniture and painting. Once you are done with all this, your basement becomes as useful and important as the other parts of your house. The best part is that all this can be achieved at a much lesser cost.